Do you really want to be the person who causes the Awkward Family Silence?
What you think of the current president
Politics generally top the list for dinner subjects that should never be discussed and that maybe even truer this year than in previous years thanks to the very contentious political climate of late. But while you should probably leave personal attacks on or declarations of love for President Trump off the table that doesn’t mean you can’t discuss politics at all,
The exception? If these are family members you only see once a year or you already know their political views are the polar opposite of yours it’s best to just not bring it up,
The $500 your brother still owes you
Money is a touchy subject under the best of circumstances and a holiday meal certainly isn’t the calmest place to have discussions about loans, how much someone’s Beacon Hill condo cost, or their Beacon Hill apartment rent went up (Not to mention it’s beyond boring to have to listen to someone’s stock portfolio)
Money talk is so contentious, Does one relative feel short-changed on the inheritance after grandma passed? If there are financial conversations that need to be had, keep it separate from the holiday, or at very least, from the holiday meal, You don’t want to leave a bad taste in anyone’s mouth and ruin the delicious pumpkin pie.
Why your brother isn’t married yet
Thanksgiving dinner can be sheer agony for single folks because they know they’re likely to get drilled about their relationship status, pitied, set up with random people, or all of the above. It’s enough to make a person want to stay home with a microwave dinner.
How you feel about your weight gain or cellulite
I hate when my mon brings up this conversation. Yes, mom, I know I’ve gained weight, yes mom I know this is my second glass of wine. Body image is a loaded topic any day of the week but brings it up during a holiday meal and it’s the perfect storm for low self-esteem or even eating disorders. Don’t discuss your own body in a negative way and certainly don’t criticize anyone else’s body, appearance, diet, or health.
Your uncle’s embarrassing moment
You can’t help but giggle every time you remember that time a relative made a fool out of himself, but not everyone will be laughing when you bring it up. “What one family member may see as funny maybe someone else’s uncomfortable moment No one should bear the brunt of another person’s joke or story. Sure, some people might be able to take a joke, but pay attention to body language, she recommends. If the reaction is an awkward smile or a scowl, apologize and change the subject
Boston Real Estate and the Bottom Line
Never start a conversation you know nothing about. Like this blog post. Promise my next Boston real estate blog post will be about … err… Boston Real Estate.